“My love has made me selfish. I cannot exist without you – I am forgetful of everything but seeing you again – my Life seems to stop there – I see no further. You have absorb’d me. I have a sensation at the present moment as though I was dissolving – I should be exquisitely miserable without the hope of soon seeing you … I have been astonished that Men could die Martyrs for religion – I have shudder’d at it – I shudder no more – I could be martyr’d for my Religion – Love is my religion – I could die for that – I could die for you.”
written by John Keates to Fanny Brawne on 13 October 1819
Sometimes I wonder how you can tell the difference between true love and codependence. Is there an aspect of this where you can need someone, love someone with all you have, not be able to imagine the world or the rest of your life without the one you love, but in a healthy way?
Maybe the forever passionate love you read in fairy tales is just a mutual codependence projected towards a willing partner.