As you have probably noticed by now I love to learn, I love to research, and I love to share the knowledge I accumulate. Let’s face it, it’s kind of the point of this blog.
So last night I was doing something pretty rare for me. I was *gasp* watching TV. Okay, Netflix, but almost the same thing. What I was watching was excruciatingly interesting. Yes, excruciating. My brain was going so damn fast with the information I was consuming like a ravenously starved bear brain.
I was watching TED Talks: Head Games.
The TED talks are riveting talks by remarkable people. They’re great talks that are designed to stir your curiosity, expand your perception and ways of thinking. I only watched about a dozen of these talks but two in particular stood out as relevant to those of us struggling with BPD. Now none of these are directed specifically towards people with BPD, but they do deal with subjects that I think we focus on and take to an even more troubling level.
The first is: Why are we happy?
"The great source of both the misery and disorders of human life, seems to arise from over-rating the difference between one permanent situation and another.... Some of those situations may, no doubt, deserve to be preferred to others: but none of them can deserve to be pursued with that passionate ardour which drives us to violate the rules either of prudence or of justice; or to corrupt the future tranquillity of our minds, either by shame from the remembrance of our own folly, or by remorse from the horror of our own injustice."
-- Adam Smith
The second is: The paradox of choice
Especially this second one, considering the way I am often trapped and stuck when considering the nearly endless possibilities and results that could occur from any given situation, struck me as relevant. Because what I notice is it’s the anticipation, it’s the waiting, the period of interim, that is the time of peak anxiety. When a choice has been made, when I choice has been decided on and the path has been picked… the majority of my anxiety disappears. Having made a decision, choosing a direction, letting go of the other paths, and having the limit of one path… things feel better. Making a choice, limiting the directions my brain can whirl down, makes me feel better. I don’t know if you’ve had this experience, but I thought it was interesting to note. Especially since these are “regular” people. It’s not just us, though our BPD brains may take it to an elevated level with increased anxiety, but it’s all kinds of people, all over the planet.
So take a look. Give them a chance. They’re really interesting to contemplate.
And I have a bunch of fun posts coming up!