I’m all about the Bonus Posts this week! Lucky you! Sometimes it astounds me how much my life revolves around researching and sharing information. It makes me happy though, and I hope it helps you.
I was watching more Ted talks when xRoommate brought these two to my attention. They’re powerful and extremely relevant. If you’re anything like me, and I know many of you are, you feel that vulnerability is a “weakness” and above all else, it’s important to hide this “weakness”. The amount of pressure, stress, and strain this puts on our mental health is mind bending. Especially when you stop to consider that this entire “reasoning” is a culturally imposed social norm, and not an intrinsic human value.
So take a look at what I have to share with you today.
Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability
Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, and love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. Brené Brown studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame.
“This is what I have found: to let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen; to love with our whole hearts, even though there's no guarantee -- and that's really hard, and I can tell you as a parent, that's excruciatingly difficult -- to practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror, when we're wondering, "Can I love you this much? Can I believe in this this passionately? Can I be this fierce about this?" just to be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, "I'm just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I'm alive." And the last, which I think is probably the most important, is to believe that we're enough. Because when we work from a place, I believe, that says, "I'm enough," then we stop screaming and start listening, we're kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we're kinder and gentler to ourselves.”
Brené Brown: Listening to shame
Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behavior. Brené Brown, whose earlier talk on vulnerability became a viral hit, explores what can happen when people confront their shame head-on. Her own humor, humanity and vulnerability shine through every word.